FAQ


1. Who are you?
2. Where do the scarves come from?
3. Where do the scarves go?
4. Why scarves?
5. I received a scarf – do I have to wear it?
6. Do you really think a scarf is going to take away the pain I’m feeling?
7. How do I get involved?
8. What kind of scarf should I send?
9. I don’t knit or crochet but I want to help, what can I do?

1. Who are you?
Threads of Compassion is just a group of people who want to offer some comfort and support (in a small way) to those who have been sexually assaulted or abused. In addition to offering some comfort and hope to those who have survived this violence, we also wish to start breaking through the silence and shame that surrounds rape and sexual abuse and to let people know they don’t have to suffer alone. For more details, please see our about us page.

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2. Where do the scarves come from?
The majority of scarves we receive are made by people who have experienced sexual violence in their own lives, and know all too well the pain that victims/survivors face. Others are made by secondary victims/survivors (friends and family members of assault victims/survivors) or by people who want to do something to stand out against the sexual violence they see in the world around them.

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3. Where do the scarves go?
The scarves are donated to the Sexual Assault Crisis Service of the YWCA New Britain. Their counselor advocates then hands out the scarves to victims/survivors of rape or sexual assault when they seek out emergency medical treatment.

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4. Why scarves?
The main reason we have chosen scarves is because they are simple to make, which allows more people to be able to get involved and contribute. One aspect of Threads of Compassion that we never planned on, but yet has proven to be huge, is the effect that making scarves has on victims/survivors of sexual violence. So many have written thanking us for giving them the opportunity to reach out and offer support to others. This, in a way, helps them in their own healing.

The other reason is that scarves can serve as a tangible reminder that the victim/survivor is not alone. They can be worn, touched, and held – a symbol of support you can wrap yourself in knowing that each stitch was made with thoughts for you. It is also a silent and private form of support; to others the scarf is merely an article of clothing. The true meaning is something only the owner knows.

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5. I received a scarf – do I have to wear it?
That is up to you. Some choose to wear the scarf as a way to feel supported during painful times of stress. Others merely keep it in view, such as draped over a chair, to serve as a silent reminder that they are not alone and that there is someone else out there who understands. Still others choose to keep the scarf in a drawer and then pull it out during those times that they need something to hold onto. There is not a right or wrong way to use the scarf.

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6. Do you really think a scarf is going to take away the pain I’m feeling?
We wish there was something we could do that would take all your pain away. The scarves just provide a small amount of support and comfort while you are dealing with your pain. In no way do we mean to imply that a scarf is all you need to feel better. We know all too well the amount of pain victims/survivors of sexual assault and abuse face. A victim/survivor of sexual violence needs an abundance of support, way more than one scarf can provide. National organizations, such as RAINN and NSVRC, and state organizations, such as CONNSACS, can help you get in touch with agencies that can give you the additional support you need. Here in central Connecticut, the Sexual Assault Crisis Service of the YWCA New Britain has a variety of services available to you. We encourage all sexual violence victims/survivors to reach out to others for help. You don’t have to face this alone.

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7. How do I get involved?
You can donate a knitted or crocheted scarf to be given to a victim/survivor. You can help collect handmade scarves from people you know. You can donate supplies to be used to make the scarves. Simply email Liz at liz@threadsnb.org to get started, or check out the donations tab for more information.

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8. What kind of scarf should I send?
If you’re sending us a completed scarf, we ask that it be handmade, and at least 5″ x 65″ so that everyone receives a similar size. If your scarf has special care instructions, please include them.

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9. I don’t knit or crochet but I want to help, what can I do?
We also accept donations of supplies (yarn, knitting needles, and crochet hooks) as well as gift cards to JoAnn Fabrics, A.C. Moore, or Michael’s. If you would like to learn how to knit, knitting help has some great instructional videos. If you would like to learn how to crochet, Lion brand yarn also has some instructional videos.

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